In parental alienation cases Judges are often easily deceived by their incompetence as critical and informed observers, low knowledge base of alienation
psychology and see the case through a counter intuitive lens, with little to no understanding of the science that explains all children have a natural reluctance to reject a parent.
By simply failing to comprehend this fact, they are easily deceived to embrace the false testimony of a child/teen manipulatively abused by a parent and inact orders that
directly enable the pathology. Family courts are acting in a way that is not only fully against the interest of the child, but are literally acting to commit mal‐practice outside
their level of competance.
Research also tells us that the developmental tasks of being a teenager are similar to those experienced in the toddler years. Growing used to the changing body
learning about the self and expression of personality, are all part of being a teenager.
The teenage brain requires significant remodelling in order to function as an adult brain and during this period of time this work is intensive. The pruning
of neural pathways leads to a more effective brain function whilst development of new neural pathways grows the capacity for new and more sophisticated thinking.
The teenage brain is not an adult brain and cannot make adult decisions. And yet this is the time during which teenagers are often given decision making power over their
relationship with a once loved parent. This is nothing short of tragic, particularly when we understand that it is most often the healthy parent who is not enmeshed with the teenager, who is rejected.
Working with splitting and alienation in teenagers is tricky for practitioners precisely because of the over reliance upon their age and the inherent belief in the family services that this
means they are capable of making informed decisions. Just as teenagers are not allowed to smoke, drink or drive cars however, in the light of the necessity for healthy, stable parenting,
teenagers should not in my view, be enabled or empowered by the court system to reject a healthy good enough parent.
Leading child safety campaigner, Good Egg Safety CIC, has today launched a new publication to provide support and assistance to parents, grandparents and
wider family members who have been emotionally cut off from their children following separation or divorce.
It follows a study undertaken last year which generated over fifteen hundred responses and laid bare for the first time the devastation, financial ruin, and mental health issues many have suffered as a result.
"Parental alienation is a form of domestic abuse inflicted on the victimised parent by the use of their children, diligently calculated and the kids are used as
pawns on the chess board of life. This abusive behaviour needs to be recognised and laws need to change to protect these children from emotional and psychological abuse.
Children are torn emotionally, gaslighted mentally and repeatedly put in a position which betrays their own genuine heartfelt emotions. To "survive" and stay "safe", they reject
their other loving parent and extended family, as a coping mechanism....This behaviour over months and often years, leads to detrimental mental health issues and trauma,,,
"I was 6 when my mum left my dad. I remember him taking me and my older sister to her bed sit and we begged her to come home. That's one of the few times I saw my dad cry. After that we saw her every other weekend.
I went to see my mum, and my step sister went to stay with her dad for the first time after as many years. They lived so close together, we got off at the same train station
to meet them. I met my younger half‐brother for the first time! He was 10 years my junior, aged 6. I had a great time and I saw my grandparents, which was wonderful.
How to Help the Judge Give You the Relief that You Desperately Need
Regardless of how one labels the phenomenon —call it parental alienation, brainwashing, programming, or pathological parenting—American family courts have
concluded that parental alienation exists and needs to be addressed. As one trial judge quipped: Anybody old enough to drink coffee knows that embittered parties
can and do manipulate their children.
Sadly, the children and grandchildren who are alienated from family are being treated as pawns and property. They are neither. They are human beings, and
they should not be regarded as such by their parents or any other family member. We contend that it should be illegal to use children as pawns or instruments
Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS) is the unhealthy coalition between a narcissistic parent and his or her children against the targeted, non‐narcissistic, non‐abusive
parent (and grandparent). The innocent or targeted parent receives hostility and rejection from his or her children in this system. The psychological health of the children is used as
arsenal in the narcissists twisted world.
Parental Alienation Syndrome is a family systems pathology involving the triangulation of children into the abusive, narcissistic parental relationship. In the case of PAS
the cross‐generational coalition exists between the narcissist and the child or children, and is a covert type of narcissistic abuse.
The Solution is: A break in the coalition between the narcissistic parent and the children; this requires separation.
Restoration of the bond between the non‐narcissistic parent and the children.
Restructuring of the improper power balance between the children and the non‐abusive parent back to wholeness.
That's right. Tha's right. He would call every day at 6 p.m. And they would have to drop ‐ the kids would drop everything they were doing ‐ dinner,
homework, even their own birthday parties ‐ to talk to their dad. And he would talk to them for one to two hours a night. He wouldn't let them off the
phone. He'd talk about how terrible their mother was. He'd talk about the legal case, how he was being bankrupted.
And whenever they defended their mother, he would say, oh, so that's how you feel. Well, this conversation is over. And what he did, which is very typical,
is he really forced them to choose between the mom and the dad. So they could really only be on one side, and he forced them to choose him.
Lawyers and Family Courts opine on the subject of Best Interest of the Child, a psychological issue, not a legal issue. They engage in discussions completely beyond the scope of their competance.
This has to stop. The best interest of the child, according to clinical psychologist Childress, is for the mother and father to both have the rights to parent. Listen the the video.
As with most forms of abuse, alienating behaviors typically start small and become more aggressive as time passes. When Abby was younger, Sally used fear
to begin the alienation process. Every week on the way to meet Abby’s dad for his visitation time, Sally would call the police in front of Abby and tell
them she was afraid he was going to become violent at their meet up spot.
The more fathers and mothers that talk about their experience of alienation, the better for our society. It is in the silent spaces that abuse thrives.
Richard, thank you so much for writing about parental alienation in your column last week. I am one of those fathers you wrote about. I have not seen my children now
properly for over two years. Access has always been a huge source of conflict between my ex-wife and myself.
Most of the time when I turn up I am told ‘the children just don’t want to see you’ and I have to leave with the children watching me from the window. It breaks my heart. I have been accused of terrible things.
Steven G. Miller talks about Parental Alienation: Among professionals who specialize in child alignment, it is well known that many aspects of
parental alienation are highly counter‐intuitive. Examples include how to distinguish alienation from estrangement, how to identify hybrid cases,
and how to treat alienated children. Other examples abound. What’s more, the use of the word counter‐intuitive is more than a warning for
professionals (and others) to be careful. Rather, it is a warning that no matter how careful professionals might be, those who do not specialize
in this area will almost always make major errors ‐ often catastrophic errors ‐ with respect to diagnosis, causation, treatment, and prognosis.
This is true not only for the mental health professionals who evaluate, manage, and treat such cases but also for the legal professionals who evaluate, manage, and litigate them.
A Must See Forensic Psychologist specialized in analysis of family dynamics in Child/Teen Abuse Alienation. Alienating Parents and Grandparents who are abusive and cunning narcissists
enlist the false and manipulated support of allies in their quest to abuse and isolate a Targeted Parent. After much background research, evidence has been collected that will tell
a story of a woman in Redondo Beach California woman whose story will be told soon in this website. She is a good example of a flying monkey who resists any narrative that
defies the alienators control. Watch the video and the follow up on a flying monkey ally.
We repeat the difference between parental alienation and other forms of abuse.
The attachment‐related pathology of a child rejecting a parent, is a clear symptom indicator of pathogenic parenting. It can only be caused by either:
The targeted ‐ rejected parent (eg through chronic and severe parental abuse of their child)
The allied and assumed 'favoured' parent who has formed what is referred to as a 'cross ‐ generational coalition' with their child against their other parent
( Minuchin 1974, Haley 1977) which is resulting in an emotional cut‐off (Bowen 1978, Titleman 2003)
All alienated parents can relate to this video. When my children were alienated from me, people would say, " don't worry your children are smart, they will figure
it out when they get married and have kids of their own". My children were 10,12,14,16 at the time, so they were saying Move on with your life, forget about
your children for the next 20+ years, but if roles were reversed and they were in our shoes, how would they react? I also have a child with Congenital Heart Disease
and his wellness is in jeopardy and nobody cares because everyone is afraid of my former spouse. People turn a blind eye to the abuse. This video gives great
examples of how people can be so cruel by telling you to move on and forget about your loved ones. I agree with this woman 100 percent and that is to keep
their memory alive with Love. I did exactly that by forming a non profit called www.lovedominates.com, so my children that have been alienated/kidnapped/abducted
from me will always know the TRUTH, that their MOTHER LOVES THEM ALWAYS AND FOREVER. My heart is an "Avalanche of Love" for them, they were just taught to
Hate, disrespect and demean their Mother. I'm alive and am treated as if I'm DEAD. This is so wrong on so many levels.
Parental Alienation is a form of DV. Parental Alienation is one of the most heart‐wrenching and cruel forms of domestic abuse and Domestic Violence in which
one parent(alienator) uses a child to reject a loving(targeted) parent to perpetuate abuse after the relationship is over. The Alienator treats the child as their
possessions, not as a normal Parent‐Child relationship.
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Research Articles on Parental Alienation Child Abuse
It is noteworthy that those who are critical of the courts making a finding of alienation and making
an order for the child to live with the rejected parent in severe cases fail to recognize that without
a judicial response, the child was not seeing the rejected parent. Indeed, if a child is alienated
and a court fails to enforce contact with a healthy parent, the resulting disruption in contact with
the rejected parent may be considered a form of parentectomy. While the discontinuation of the child's
contact with the rejected parent may be viewed by some as justified or even desirable, in part as
it is based on the child's stated preferences, research raises serious concerns about the short and
long term negative effects on the child of loss of the relationship with a rejected parent due to
alienation.
